Hate

So I woke up in a bad mood today. And I lay in bed and thought about hate (yeah, I'm in a pretty bad mood). Do you know what's really, really not funny about hate? That, apparently, feminists all hate men, and yet all the evidence points to the opposite: men hate feminists. Not only that; men hate women. Men hate me.

1. Men hate me when they rape. I am lucky enough not to have been raped (yet), but I still feel that hate. I feel it when I read that 60, 000 women a year are raped in the UK alone. I feel it when I know that, all around the world, women are being raped right this minute, right this second. I feel it because I know that we are not being raped by crazy psychopaths lying in wait in a dark alley as the media would have as believe, but by normal, ordinary, everyday men, by husbands, ex-husbands, boyfriends, friends, fathers, brothers, bosses, partners, ex partners, soldiers, policemen, the list goes on. Men hate me when they rape.

2. Men hate me when they use porn. They hate me when they come to my sisters being abused and raped. They hate me when they reduce me to two hands and three holes. They hate me when they use porn as a manual for sex, when they equate my worth to my ability to act like a porn star. They hate me when they deny the harm that porn does to women. They hate me when they see the harm and rejoice in it. They hate me when they cause that harm. Men hate me when they use porn.

3. Men hate me when they type 'rape virgens' into google, or 'cut breasts f*ck', or 'three men brutally rape woman'. (Check out the sitemeter posts over at the Den if you really need more evidence).

4. Men hate me when they harrass women in clubs, on the streets, in the park, in bars, on the beach, at the bus stop.They hate me when they leer and make lewd comments and pinch arses and grab breasts and stare down tops and drive by in their cars beeping their horns at any tits and arse they go past and when think they have the f*cking right to tell me to smile.

5. Men hate me when they buy lads mags and calculate how much their girlfriend costs per f*ck.

6. Men hate me when they ask their girlfriends to get a boob job to spice up their sex life.

7. Men hate me when they make malicious, sexist jokes. Men hate me when they laugh at malicious, sexist jokes. You think I don't know that you really mean it?

8. Men hate me when they question women's right to equal pay / to have an abortion / to have sex without getting pregnant / to do anything that they have the right to do.

9. Men hate me when they buy women's bodies.

10. Men hate me when they sell women's bodies.

11. Men hate me when they pay money to control women in a strip club.

12. Men hate me when they write and profit from lyrics like this (Grab your titties for BIG)

13. Men hate me when they laugh at an anti-rape protest.

14. Men hate me when they attempt to justify/ deny /defend any of the above.

And the funniest thing is, I still don't hate men. I still believe that men are not all engrained with natural hate for women, that a lot of it is learnt, and that if something is learnt, it can be unlearnt, or at least we can begin to teach something else.

And I think this is why people like the charming Mr John Turner accuse me, accuse us, of hating men: because they know that we damn well should. But rather than trying to sort themselves the f*ck out so we no longer have any reason to potentially hate them, they lash out with accusations to try and make us feel guilty, to try and make it seem like we are the ones who are acting unfairly, that we are the haters and they are the victims.

Well, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to fall for that. You are the hater; I am the hated. And I'm quite happy to stay here on my moral highground until you accept responsibilty for your hatred and put a stop to it.

EDIT: Just to clarify, when I say I don't hate men, I don't mean that I don't hate rapists and abusers - of course I do - I mean rather that I do not hate men as a genaralized category of people; I do not 'hate all men' in the way the delightful Mr Turner suggests, and I would not ever state that 'I hate men'. At the same time, I am not criticizing anyone who would identify with this statement - as I said, you would be perfectly justified in doing so. There, I think that covers all potential offensive interpretations of the post (excepting, of course, the inevitable trollish interpretations. Bah.)

(Kind of like the oddball joke. "Oh no, I'm not the oddball in the family, all of my other siblings are!")

So I woke up in a bad mood today. And I lay in bed and thought about hate (yeah, I'm in a pretty bad mood).

i say we shud all turn gay.

I say that you should turn gay and then all the guys watch.