I really don't understand the point of month anniversaries. In fact, it's technically WRONG. An anniversary is the celebration of one year, as it is derived from the french word "anniversaire." I am sickened by the celebration of getting through a month of a relationship. That's nothing to celebrate and the concept is retarded.

^Still a hater.

Wanna know why people do that? It's because they are so sad and pathetic to not be able to get a relationship to work, that they have to count months instead of years.

"Holy crap, we made it for four week!"

*celebrates*

While I assume that it is true that anniversary really means a year and and that 4 weeks isn't much what do you guys propose as the alternative, 2 months, 6 months. It seems like a long time to wait until one year to celebrate the amount of time you've been together. Before my present girlfriend (of 8 years) the longest relationship I was in was 8 months. So I never had a true anniversary with anyone other than her. But I dated a couple girls long enough that it was worth celebrating the amount of time together unless you take the perspective that it is pointless to celebrate the amount of time instead of just that you are happy together, in which case even true anniversaries would then be pointless too.

Let's make up a word for it then!
I propose.... monthsary

I propose... 1 year.

Yes, an anniversary is a long time. That's exactly the point. The fact that, yes, you did manage to last that long.

... You're right. What an utterly foolish concept, to be celebrating anniversaries by the month.


For, once I have found the princess of my dreams at last, I intend to celebrate every last day to come that I am able to be at her side as her loyal knight. ^_-



(Have I caused you to vomit up in your mouth, yet, Syn? ..... GOOD!)

Allow me to paraphrase Bo for everybody:

"Everybody deserves the right to celebrate a length of time together even if the time celebrated is of no chronological significance! I'll leave it to you to figure out what that line should be, because I'm lazy and a communist!"

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Close! It kind of make sense. I figured the "versary" part would be right. But I never thought of "mensi"
I should have seeing as monthly in spanish is "mensual"

Actually the laziest thing to do is blindly follow tradition without understanding or challenging its merit. With respect to a relationship (as opposed to with respect to the earth's position around the sun), one year is essentially as arbitrary a length as one month, albeit a longer one.

The most communistic thing to do is assume that if the amount of days in a relationship are equal between two different couples (i.e. one year) that somehow the size, strength, and depth of relating is equivalent, when in actuality it is all relative to each couple's individual relationship.

Thus each couple can determine their own chronological benchmarks. I myself don't consider a year to be that long at all. I believe more along the lines of four years but that is just me. I mean, you don't ever really get tempted to cheat until a couple years into it, nor do you likely meet all the extended family by the end of a year. Hell, you could date for more than three and a half so-called long durations (years) and still not yet had the opportuinity to watch the summer olympics together.

And this goes back to the point that if you are going to celebrate your love everyday there really isn't any need to celebrate an anniversary or mensiversary, etc.

But if you do come up with an amount of time that means something to you and your significant other, no matter how long or how short, then to each your own.

I always thought people did that because celebrating things is fun and when in a relationship you want to do fun things together.

My cousin's boyfriend gave her 7 different small gifts for their 7th mensiversary, and when the 8th came she was extremely hyped, "I've got to outdo him this time!"

I dunno, I think that the fact that you kept the relationship for a full rotation around the sun is significant. "We've made the distance! *celebrates* Now let's see if we can do it again!" Anything less, and you're pretty much saying "hey, we've only made it part-way there, but we'll celebrate anyway!" Now, if celebrating checkpoints towards the real deal is your thing, go for it.

You are so right. And while we're at it, we should abolish birthdays as well. Age is arbitrary when you're celebrating that you're still alive each day.

Also, I don't like the word "mensiversary".

@Draygone,

You say that celebrating a month is a part-way celebration but that is only true if you decided to make the year the standard. Humans are not bound to follow that. You could just as easily make the month the standard. When it comes to relationships unlike space orbitals, it is all arbitrary. There really is no reason why regarding relationships that a year must be the standard instead of the month or the week or a group of four years. You could celebrate the "We've made the distance, let's do it again!" with respect to the moon rotating around the earth (approximately a month) or the earth rotating around it's axis (one day). If that is how you designate it then it won't be a part-way celebration.

I don't celebrate holidays for the most part. I am close to not ever celebrating any holiday again but I am not quite there and I feel similarly about birthdays, they are arbitrary but like the Gnasher was saying about anniversaries, it is not so much that they are significant as they are fun to celebrate so I group birthdays in with that. I myself prefer to not have my birthday celebrated because I see it as no different than any other day. I let my girlfriend celebrate my birthday because it would kill her if I didn't and I celebrate hers because it would kill her if I didn't, but yeah if I can't give my time on a regular basis to someone, why would I celebrate their birthday?

EDIT: You know at one point I wasn't going to celebrate birthdays at all just like holidays until my girlfriend persuaded me that it is nice to know that for the people you care about they have a special day each year where their life is celebrated by all their close friends and family together at the same time, and while I don't think the actual date is important, I can see that it makes sense pragmatically to make it the birthday. But then I thought, consistent with this topic, it is arbitrary that they get one day per YEAR. So then I thought well should we make it once a month but then I thought that seems too much hassle and not enough benefit, which makes me think the ideal amount of time between birthday-type celebrations per person would be about 5 months. So yeah, maybe we should have more than one of these type celebration per year. The standard of the year is too long to wait I think, but most people have a hard time breaking the hold of tradition and even amounts of time.

If you set the month as a standard, you must not have a lot of confidence in the relationship.

I completely disagree. It has almost nothing to do with confidence in the relationship. When I had 2 girlfriends of 6 months and 1 of 8 months, we went through what to me then was a lot together in that time and I knew that if we ever made it to years instead of months, we would probably 'measure' and celebrate it that way, but not being at that level yet, a year was a useless metric. It didn't mean that I didn't have confidence that we would be together for years nor that I felt we needed to wait that long to take stock in our relationship.

If I would have felt that we needed to wait until a year to celebrate to 'prove' something, then we wouldn't have been proving it to each other, we would have been 'proving' it to univested critics and that would have been pointless. That would have demonstrated moreso a lack of confidence in the relationship.

The more you fight it, the less I think you even know what you are talking about. Simply put, if you want to celebrate incredibly small portions of time, then you kind of have a very low bar set for yourself... and that's just about it.

So do you consider a year a "high" bar? Why?

Let me be clear with the following example. The amount of time between a completed month (what you guys call "pathetic") and a completed year (what you guys consider to be an accomplishment) is 11 months (12 months minus one month). The amount of time between a completed year and the amount of time I have been with my present girlfriend is 7 years or 84 months (8 years minus one year or 96 months minus 12 months). From my vantage point 12 months looks a hell of a lot like one month. But I bet you guys think that (wow a whole year or even two!) is somehow a meaningful amount of time for you. Should I myself, maintain that you guys don't have confidence in your relationships because you set the bar at a 'lowly' 12 months, which I could do in my sleep? Is that how it works?

Bye the way, we still celebrate month-versaries in a small way. I guess we must be deathly afraid that we are going to break up soon!

The idea of an anniversary is basically to celebrate the day you got together or married a year previous and then future years down the road. Of course, I will cherish my future woman every damn day, but you're considering "celebrating" as something being done every day as a common happenstance. An anniversary is supposed to be a commemoration of a certain date, like New Year's and the Fourth of July and so on an so forth. Celebrating and getting all pumped over being together for a month is not really anything to be excited over. Yes, you should still be enthused to be in a relationship with someone you care about, but a month really isn't very long.

I had a dream.

I was invited to Bo's house and went over there. The door was open, so I went in. Inside, I heard a loud argument, with one part being very loud.

"You're wrong!"
"No, YOU'RE wrong!"

So I ran up the stairs and opened the door to the room that held the conversation.

All I saw was Bo talking in the mirror.