Hey guys!
I stuck with my partner, and we're doing great, but now two friends of mine, a guy and a girl are dating and I'm in the middle.
Now, the girl lives in my hometown which I'm at right now. The guy lives in PA. She has said she LOVES him on the phone, and he is a very *gulps and prepares for Ixzion's awesome brutality* NICE GUY. But he tends to nerve out and push things along too fast, which scares her since she has a problem with being scared of being tied down from traveling for the work she wants to do with engineering. Her last love interest passed away before his time and she never got to say she loved him, so it's another trust issue. He doesn't understand it, he doesn't get why she just won't give into him more. But to be honest, I think she needs to stop providing conflicting information. This is both their first relationship, and they've been dating for 2-3 weeks supposedly. But last time he visited, she wasn't even friendly to him hardly. She ran from him figuratively. A few weeks passed, now he's coming down here again... and she said "I love you" in this gap. We are supposed to go see movies tomorrow(me, my significant other, him, and the girl he's dating who is also my friend)... I fear the same thing will happen from the convo below.
I don't know how to handle being in the middle of this.
What do I tell her on the phone at midnight when she is supposed to call me? I don't like how she's treating him. What do I tell him? I directed him to MGTOW, but he still seems so damn whipped.
His account of the general conversation before: Said she'd been working around the house & sleeping... [she] Said AIM takes up bandwidth?
The guy is he, Brandi is her. Striderneko is also him.
StriderNeko X: (21:11:15) Me: Hey, babe, you there?! Missed catchin' up w/ you last nite!
(21:11:19) Brandi: ?
(21:11:21) Brandi: hey
(21:11:33) Brandi: I didn't have my phone most of the night
(21:11:46) Me: ah! that'd 'splain it:) lol!
(21:12:26) Me: (figured you were busy, or started that job @ Starbucks already)
(21:12:33) Me: lol
(21:12:47) Brandi: I haven't applied yet
(21:12:53) Brandi: Been lazy and doing other things
(21:12:56) Me: 'come to think of it, haven't seen u on aim in awhile:0
(21:13:20) Me: doin' other stuffs?! Gots to get that job:) Can't let other stuffs get in teh way!
(21:13:41) Brandi: meh
(21:14:40) Brandi: I don't sign on AIM all the time
(21:15:11) Me: you should:)
(21:15:19) Me: more oftenz
(21:15:30) Brandi: No thanks. lol
(21:15:39) Brandi: Sucks up brandwidth
(21:15:42) Me: how come?? what'cha been up to lately??
(21:17:46) Brandi: Working around the house and sleeping.
(21:18:27) ***Me likes to talk to you on aim, sometimes, without always calling after hours, lol
(21:19:14) Brandi: lol.
(21:19:29) Brandi: I'm not going to be on much longer. I gotta go get ready for work soon
(21:19:31) Me: (come to think of it, don't you have to work tonite?)
(21:19:34) Me: oh:)
(21:19:35) Me: lol
(21:20:06) Me: (I was going to call you before work, actually, in a few minutes! Should I still? :3 )
(21:20:39) Brandi: Nah. I don't got my phone.
(21:21:17) Me: ?! Who's been carrying it?!
[22:43] StriderNeko X:
(21:21:29) Brandi: My mom
(21:21:45) Me: aww... you're so nice to your mother; What happened to her one?
(21:21:46) Brandi: I don't care about having my phone on me at all times.
(21:21:58 ) Brandi: Dunno
(21:22:42) Me: well, I'll certainly be calling you tomorrow, as we're going to hang out
(21:23:23) Me: hehe, find me those boxer shorts, lol!
(21:24:09) Brandi: I'm not getting up early
(21:24:18 ) Me: ??
(21:25:14) Brandi: I sleep during the day
(21:25:27) Me: afternoon, afternoon
(21:25:59) Me: (That's just 'cause of your job, lol:) (I sleep during the night, 'cept when you call:)
(21:30:10) Brandi: gotta go
(21:30:29) Me: k, I call like, 3 pm +?
(21:30:41) Me: (or txt)
(21:31:38 ) Me: (sigh... wishes you had a day job, and could be work/sleep normal hours, and enjoy days...
)
(21:32:47) Brandi: THese are my normal hours anyway
(21:32:52) Brandi: but ttyl
(21:33:03) Me: k, bye... call you tomorrow