I don't think thats what he meant

First I will make fun of the message filter system for not catching the word bullsh*t after all that clucking about you were doing, but I've got to smile everytime someone comes off saying they have this problem.

To deny love is to lead a really lonely life. I've lived this life before. The feeling of wanting something can be a very powerful thing. You may have followed your heart only to find disappointment. When someone falls in love the mind tends to "Focus" or "Fixate" itself on the other individual. It becomes an obsession. You want to live their life and breathe the same air every moment of your life. You'd sit by the phone waiting or hoping that the girl will call you... but we should all remember the cliche line "Look at the bigger picture." Step back every so often. See what they other person is doing or trying to do. Unfortunately, no one is an expert right from the beginning. I sure as hell wasn't. It takes a little bit of getting dumped on to realize exactly what you are looking for in a relationship. Only by our failures can we realize where we went wrong and learn how to find the perfect relationship.

Don't be cocky or ignorant when it comes to finding someone you may want to spend the rest of your life with. If you set your goals entirely too high, you'll be single for quite some time. Find someone who likes you for you. Look at other friends around you and see who has the longest relationships going. Look at married couples, see what their strengths and weaknesses are and build on it. There are women that live a life that thrives on constant excitement and danger, while others want to settle down and live a simple life while making a family with somone that will treat them right. I think the first place to start is to find out who you are, and list a couple things that you look for in a woman. Then when you take a look at the women in your past that clucked you over, compare that list to their traits. Do they match?



Much info? Damn that pretty much describes most soap operas on TV or a single episode of Sex in the City... Making your own assumptions probably wouldn't help, however I've found that in asking open ended questions that cannot legitimately be answered by a yes or a no, often times yields more information than just making your own statement or ideas be known. This thread should develop conversation and controversy at the same time. Everyone has a different opinion about what might be the best way to handle a situation in a relationship, but without finding out by asking the person, all that is happening is a spewing of hot air. [inhale]

While I see your attempt at grabbing information to build on, the whole scenario could be simply answered by Yes or No. I am posting this here instead of PM because I feel that if you really want to generate conversation, you shouldn't make post stopping comments, or ask closed questions, because there really isn't much of a way to build on it unless the other person decides to vent and build on his or her previous post. Much like a lesson in love. If you want to talk to a girl, ask open questions. Women inherently love to talk, so let them. Make intersting questions work for you. The main objective is to listen. Constructively ask questions that follow her information. Sometimes interrupt her and ask if she means.... or things like, "What are your opinions on...?" If she can talk to you, then she feels comfortable. Most of the time...



I will be using both the phone number and the e-mail later, thank you for posting this hun. OUCH! <ducks> I wonder if this covers relationships where the man is being whipped and chained to the bed... Or maybe it's for gay lovers that are at war with each other.



Maybe not but what do you think he meant?

Well I took it as him being an abused man. Maybe theres
someone he can talk to. Someone who knows a lot more then me or what I can find on the web.

True but that happens in real life as well. Maybe a little worse but it still happens.

Yah it happens, but the point is to get people talking and we can't do that by just making comments, we do it by asking open questions.

I just had a bad night and it was a misconception.

^ There will be much better nights for you.

I hope we're on the same wavelength........

Me too. I'd feel kinda dumb if I did not know what you where talking about.

Do you think I had a bad romantic night or a ad night of sex?

I think you had a bad romantic night.

You should not go by just one girl. Everyone is diffrent.
You might go through 10 diffrent girls before finding the right one. Its kinda like tring on shoes. And all the shoes don't have tags. So you need to just find the closest one.